• A study conducted at University of Wisconsin-Madison concluded with shocking result that increasing level of stress in children can weaken there immune system. Of which the consequences were found to be faced at a later stage of life, sometime in puberty and ahead.

Expert’s take:Dr. Warren Bell, President of Shuswap Lake General Hospital in British Columbia, recommends if you desire to leave a peaceful life then try keeping distance between professional and private life. He says that the workload or work pressure’s exhaustion should be kept afar from children. Adults should draw a line wherein they restrict themselves so that they not cross. While at home, don’t discuss stressful issues especially when children are along. Let the children enjoy their innocence and leave a normal kid life.

• The University in Sweden conducted an analysis wherein they sampled around 7500 families and found out something very stressing. They came out with the result that the families that were experiencing depressing situations that was produced after some tragic situations or normal parent pressures made their children fatty and obese, during their youngness.

Expert’s take:In the same manner how we dealt with stress as adults determines how we dealt with them as child. The expert Dr. Bell explains that “Often we’re so conditioned by old events or processes that we just follow old patterns unconsciously and don’t deal with them.” So I suggest you that introspect your past life and try to find out the bad habits in relation to dealing of stress. For instance some of us when in stress try to run out of situations like we separate ourselves from our loved ones, over eat, think unnecessarily which leads to insomnia.

• The research carried out at Ohio State University concluded with results that stress advances for growth of harmful melanoma inside the human body. This injurious melanoma is actually a form of skin cancer. The Med Guru.com explains that the stress hormones norepinephrine generates enzymes that impulse the blood vessels to produce the detrimental melanoma tumors rapidly and spreads them in the body faster.

Expert’s take:Judy Norsigian, an Executive Director of Our Bodies Ourselves which is a Boston-based nonprofit organization deals with the subject of women’s health says that “It’s about the mind-body connection, regular and moderate exercise improve women’s health, well-being and the ability to cope with stress” Dr.Bell recommends that one’s meal should comprise of lighter and healthier foods like fruits and vegetables. This helps in putting less physical stress on your metabolism. Also he recommends that overuse of excess alcohol should be restricted.

• In New York’s Weill Cornell Medical College, researchers tested some of the stressed students who were preparing for the medical board exams. The test comprised of a relatively simple job that they were asked to perform. After that they tested normal group of students who were experiencing normal levels of   stress. In the conclusion, they found that the stressed medical students in comparison to the normal students have tested low in qualities like concentration, judgment and task-planning.

Expert’s take:Individuals should try to make little changes in their normal routine life especially at times when they are going through high levels of stress. They must calm their stressed out senses through listening to soothing music, performing exercise or meditation, having a walk, usage of colors in their life, advises Dr. Bell. These small activities have the power to fill the stressed gaps with positivity.

• Last year, researchers examined 1000 groups of workers in Europe. They were tested for examining stress. In these, a total of 45% were found to be suffering from stress problems and the main reason for it was heavy work load and time pressures.

Expert’s take:Don’t let stress tramp your life, try to soothe your anxious senses through taking breaks from computer while working, taking deep breaths, having a walk, keeping photos of loved ones with one’s own self and a plant. These will create a healthy and positive environment around you for work. Also before this prepare a daily schedule by setting goals like making a to-do list. As Dr. Bell rightly suggests, “Make your workspace compatible, calming and as much as possible ‘yours’.”

Start a blog:
This will actually help you to open your heart and converse your feelings with others. Start talking with others and create new friends, there exists so many social networking sites over the internet like Twitter, Orkut, Messengers where you can chat with your mates simultaneously doing your work. Believe me, if you are a good sociable and affable person, you will be inundated with positive comments about your traits. Won’t that cheer you up?

Fabricate a blizzare story:
Sounds crazy and whacky… try this over those who actually jive over your head and drive you crazy; it will be a great fun. Envisage an imaginary situation as if the one who is eating your head with his bad weary story has an encounter with an appalling situation. This will definitely produce a big blast of laughter….ha.ha.ha.ha.

Place yourself in your favourite movie:
If you are sitting idly with dreary thoughts overcoming your mind, catch up with this superb frolic boosting trick. Imagine of your favorite movie scene where the hero has embraced the heroine over his arms and both are involved into a passionate affair, replace yourself with the protagonist. You will feel that you are on the top of the earth, don’t fly high in the air; you will have a great fall.

Immerse warmth sunrays:
Go get warmth under the rays of the bright yellow sun. This will certainly scoop in positive energy, which will obviously gear your sluggish vehicle and take you to a lively and energetic ride. Yeah, that’s true, sunlight has the power to escalate the level of vitamin D inside the body which will keep serotonin (a feel-good hormone) high, explains Mehmet Oz, MD, coauthor of “You: Being Beautiful.”

Hold your toes:
Yeah, you have heard it correct, you have to touch your toes and hold that pose for a minute. This healthy exercise will in turn open your hip joints which is said to clutch all the stress, says Dr. Oz. So by the time you complete this tip, your stress will get wiped and you will again turn happy-go-lucky.

Cherish everything equally:
Try to cherish everything that your sight beholds, even those which are minute. What we do in our life is run behind big desires and forget to relish tiny things of jovial nature that comes to our way. And when although, after the long run when we don’t manage to accomplish the big dreams, we were running after, ultimately end up being depressed. So, it’s better to delight in small things like soothing sun, colorful butterflies, twilight under the full moon.

Play the music:
Hear up some lively and frisky music that will cheer up your downbeat mood. Music has the potential to unravel all the ties that are placed firmly in the brain. “Music has a powerful influence over state of mind,” says Alice Domar, PhD, director of the Domar Center for Mind/Body Health in Waltham, Massachusetts. So, get going and catch up your I-pod.

Show me your moves:
Get rocking on the floor, it doesn’t matter how pathetic you dance or how bad dancer you are. Nothing matters, even if you don’t know how to dance, get on the floor with some drunken steps. You have to dance to cheer up from somberness, so shake your hips and tap your feet to peppy music, buddy.

Store photos in refrigerator:
You might be opening your refrigerator may be 30 times a day, so why not utilize it. Research has disclosed the fact that joyful people store their memories by capturing the happy moments in the form of photographs and they flaunt them at their homes. Try this out; I am sure it will soothe your senses and bring in your life waves of happiness.

Blossoming plants, blooming happiness:
Calm your depressed senses with the sight and scent of flowers. Research has concluded that the view of beautiful colorful flowers brings in positive aura and optimistic feelings. So grab the opportunity and see how your gloomy life transforms into a whole of tranquility and bliss.

Craft a new code:
Yeah, it’s true, I am not kidding. Believe me, attempt this. Change the password of your e-mail, ATM, cell phone with some name that arouses funny or promising feel. For instance, change it with your favorite cartoon character’s name, pet names of your friends or spouse or any non-sense word that brings a sweet smile on your face.

Extraordinary work:
Try to come up with something new that has never been seen before, this will not only make you feel great but also you will be on the crest of adulation. People will admire your effort; positive vibrations from the aura will certainly accelerate your mood. As Adams Miller rightly states, “Novelty makes everybody feel good.”

Mark your calendar:
This will soothe your eyes, how? I have the answer. Mark on the calendar the forthcoming days when you will go out for a movie and dinner with your husband, go for an outing with your dear buddies or for visiting a shopping outlet. As you will look your calendar and see the days coming nearer day-by-day, you will feel as happy as you are actually rejoicing the moments.

Be generous:
Be kind and big-hearted, and you will experience the difference. The difference that brings in greater happiness and ecstasy and makes your life overjoyed. A recent research says that people felt joyous when they donated about $5 over others. This helping hand will surely bring around you good vibes from others and yourself as well. For instance: if you are visiting the market, bring some stuff for your neighbors too. See, from yourself how much it excites you.

Turn the negatives into positive:
You might be wondering, how is it possible? Don’t think much. Just read my suggestion. You just need to list a number of things into your account that had gone wrong from morning, after that read them aloud. You will find the things you were upset about were so silly and you were unnecessarily fussing about them. For instance, you screamed over your kids because they spoiled there clothes, you found a new grey hair in your head etc. So this will surely make you enjoy a big laugh on yourself.

Spread positive vibes:
It’s so easy and every other human being specializes in it. Not a big daunting task, you just have to spread positive ambiance around, which will in return bring in some positive feedback. You might be familiar with the famous saying, “give respect, and take respect.” For instance, send text messages to your three friends praising their qualities you find good in them. See what comes back to you. Your generosity will spread happiness all around.

Lend a helping hand:
This way will make your inner self feel out of the world. What you need to do is just lend a helping hand to the needy sections of the society like charitable organizations, orphanages, old age homes, church etc. Make a call over there and ask from them what help can you do from your side? “The fact that you are soon to help others will only give you good contented feelings,” says Susan Ouellette, a health care educator in Baltimore, Maryland. So what are you waiting for, grab the phone and call right then.

Think about good things:
Surely, try this; this is the simplest of all. Sit in a calm place and try to recollect the happy memories that you cherish. Try to remember what fun did you indulged in with your friends? What did you specialize in? What did you achieve? suggests Dan Baker, PhD, author of What Happy Women Know. Recollecting all the pleasant memories will imbibe in you instant happiness and you will start feeling elated about yourself.

So don’t the tips sound astonishing, try them out and get the feeling of seventh heaven. Believe me, the tips that I have forwarded will supercharge your life with happiness, cheerfulness, friskiness.

• My Husband Drives Me Crazy!:There is a famous belief that opposites attract and it is actually true. Many of us choose our partners where we look out for the qualities that we lack. But the formula for a successful marriage is not the difference or similarity in either’s qualities, but having same attitude towards issues that comes to your way in the future. “After a few years, we tend to look past our commonalities and focus on personality issues, which become one of the most common areas of marital stress, what once attracted you (his generosity, his sense of humor) is now a major irritant” shares Dr. Lombardo.

Stress Buster:
Does it happen that you have fights with your spouse over either’s quality? And you create your own issues out of them or does that attributes really infringe the principles that are very dear to your heart. If the quarrels are based on the silly issue that his attributes irritate you, then it’s the time to calm yourself and leave positive vibrations. Because as you possess some unique qualities, so does he. Allow him to follow his passions completely and if possible try to encourage him.

• Packing in Too Many To-Dos:It takes place often that you get involved into your work so resonantly that everything you contribute doesn’t bring up all the praises and quench you desire. Subsequently, you are not satisfied and this turns your life into a gloomy affair, it makes you uneasy and you mull over an imaginary thought that you have the potential to offer much more qualitatively and quantitatively. But, you don’t realize that how much you are pressurizing yourself physically and mentally?

Stress Buster:
Accept the fact that everyone needs the breathing space so that small things don’t lead your life to major blunders. Start your daily work earlier and try to cope up with each and every activity, but if this is not possible than cut off with extra unnecessary work. Less activity means more free time where your body can relax.

• Who’s That Frump In the Mirror?While you look at the mirror, you find yourself in a dowdy condition with hair pulled back inconveniently, a dull face with no make up, torn clothes. This condition of yours is because you worry about others too excessively and don’t give yourself your own attention. Isn’t it strange? At the same time, your kids wear the latest fashionable clothes and you rush from the market in a clumsy condition just for preparing dinner, so that your kids and husband don’t strive of hunger and they can have their dinner at desired time. If you will not give respect to others, how will you achieve it in return? Over here there is a strong connection as to how you present yourself to the outer world and how the world replies back to you.

Stress Buster:
“What comes around goes around,” you might be familiar with this famous saying. Understand the fact that nobody will react to you positively until you spread positive vibes around you. For evolving out of this kind of stress, you just need to put a little efforts. Invest in a good haircut, some kind of chunky accessories. Give a time of 10 minutes out of your busy schedule to polish your look, apply a quick swipe of powder, blush, mascara and lipstick. Give it a chance, you will surely feel better. Adorn your look with some chunky and catchy accessories. This will surge in oomph factor inside you.

• Is Anyone Listening? Your kid remembers every detail of a cartoon channel, MTV or any other entertainment program and your dear hubby comes up with juice when you have asked to get him some milk. This might happen with you regularly, where your details are not heeded to and might be you start feeling whether you are talking to a wall. “Not feeling connected to your loved ones is a major source of stress,” says Scott, “but we’ve accepted lives that preclude the art of talking and listening to each other and mastered instead the art of tuning out.”

Stress Buster:
To avoid such painful situations, where you wish that your details are paid attention to, go to your husband and kids, and say I need your three minutes and for that while I need your attention. Stick by your words; your message should be clear and precise. Similarly, develop trust among them by saying that you too will give them attention when they find it absolutely necessary.

• Eating Too Few Calories:After long desire to look slim and graceful, you might adopt to loosing calories by the means of adopting a balanced diet. But because of eating less calorie food, craved to eat some spicy food and got irritated, started feeling low, giddy, exhausted. After your body starved for some spicy food, you indulged with it and later had a big blow up on yourself.

Stress Buster:
Switch yourself to healthy food, instead of the deadly calorie counting. Joel Fuhrman, MD, author of Eat for Health proposes, “If your diet is rich in fruits, veggies, beans and whole grains, you won’t have to watch what you eat,” says Joel Fuhrman, MD, author of Eat for Health. “Because these foods are high in water content and fiber, you’ll feel full and be less inclined to overeat or eat unhealthy foods. And in turn, this will reduce the stress connected with weight gain and self-blame.”

Read more at: 10 Shocking Factors Provoking Stress – Part 1

Most of us share our problems with other friends or the one who shares an intimate relationship with us. They consolidate us by saying that this is what life is and you have to accept smilingly whatever comes to your way. But behind this solace, do you recognize that there is hidden a major bitter truth that these stress are of potentially inimical nature.

James Ehrlich, MD, clinical associate professor of endocrinology at the University of Colorado, Denver, has suggested that there are few people who take the little stressors of day-to-day life more seriously. Ultimately those little stressors tend to deteriorate there health over the long term rather than the really big things like a death in the family or a car accident.

Today almost one out of two live under the pressure of stress; they feel tramped by the heavy workload, hectic schedules, time management and many such other problems. Why does it happen? The answer to this is none other than the stress hormones. They are a part of our body and their motive is to get us through heartrending situations. The constant release of the steroids like adrenaline and cortisol give way to fatal diseases like diabetes, heart disease, depression and cancer. Not only these, they also influence our normal routine habits and ultimately cause a major brunt like undersleeping and overeating. Therefore, rather than inviting them and leave them to sprout inside you, it’s the time to confront them boldly, change them, move them towards the calm. Below presenting are 10 radical thoughts that will help throw them out of your life.

• People Who Say Yes When They Mean No:You may have your social companions who might always positively respond to your appeals, but when the time comes to turn them into reality, they quit at the eleventh hour by rendering some of the most foolish excuses like I got late, I had an urgent work, I will catch with you some other time. These same people can actually turn into great fun and even are dependable.

Research has concluded that ambiguous relationships where prediction doesn’t help you out and things are jumbled to come up with tentative answers, in a case where you are not sure whether things will come to your way or move to either ways. “Such cases can take a greater toll on you than a relationship with someone you consciously dislike,” shares Elizabeth Scott, stress management guide for About.com.

Stress Buster:

From now onwards, if you ask any of your mates to do something, offer them with an alternative option of “NO”, so that if he doesn’t desire to come, he can use it right then. Actually the core idea behind this is not to be self- protective but accepting what is actually lying in one’s mind. For instance if arriving late at a movie drives you crazy, then communally decide between yourself a time that will suit to both of your schedule, so that you arrive at that point of time without any hasty.

• Rude Encounters of the Sales Kind:Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book “A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness” says that human beings takes gloomy or negative encounters as a personal attack. For instance, if one day you get into a shop for buying a pair of shoes and the sales person over there is not helping you or even not acknowledging you. And over this that person even does not reacts to your humble request of putting the receipt into the bag, these signs of disrespect irk you to the utmost levels and in reply you retaliate or if not this you will feel bad about yourself and walk away getting depressed.

Stress Buster:

Instead of embroiling yourself, try to be kind and confident. Ask the salesperson if you have done anything that has hurt her, might be she will apologize for her rude behaviour and even explain what has upset her so badly like being treated badly by an egoistic customer before your arrival.

• Does Anyone Else See the Mess?
  Alice Domar, PhD, executive director of the Domar Center for Mind/Body Health in Waltham, Massachusetts discloses, “A research conducted on man’s brain has revealed that man’s brain detects less sensory details compared to women.” They even don’t see or feel mess as women do. So, women’s priority of cleaning disorderly things does not matter men. It’s crushed by them and even kids love to play around cluster of things, so ultimately the room turns out to be messy affair because of their innocence. Ultimately, this leaves you in a clean initiative and you have to clear up the mess all alone.

Stress Buster:

Don’t let them go through any loopholes. Hold a family meeting and clarify everyone with the clean-up fact. Every day set timers of 5-10 minutes wherein everyone will pick there own mess. And when it comes to deal with younger kids for a clean-up affair, make it look fun, clean up things after indulging them into some kiddies’ incentives like watching a movie together or giving a chocolate treat.

• If You Need Help, Please Press 1!:
  This is the worst nightmare for anyone, the automated customer assistance service. I know that you don’t have to deal with such things regularly but periodic experiences with them can leave you frustrated for a long-term period. Walt Tetschner, Get2Human.com consumer advocate shares with us, “These systems were designed to save companies money, but they often take too long to get to a person, are illogically designed and end up losing customers who get angry and impatient.”

Stress Buster:

For getting connected to any person, go to Get2Human.com, see whether the company you have been searching for has been listed in that website. After getting it, connect to the links and seek how you can reach a person immediately. For other companies, call the main number and then press 0 after the voice starts. You may have to press it several times, says Tetschner.

• Can I Get a Little Quiet?
  I totally approve the point that one needs sometime for there own selves. This is essential because everyone needs calmness and serenity to alleviate stressed feelings. And also as Meghan McDonough, author of the upcoming book A Minute for Me rightly says, “Everyone needs some time without noise and demands, to recharge there batteries, wherever your attention is focused is where your energy will flow. A little solitude can redirect it back to you.” So recharge yourself within a free space.

Stress Buster:

For getting peace, step in a solitary, the best place for this on the entire earth is the bathroom. Stand beneath the shower, not only does water has healing properties but also it acts as a noise muffler. This is the perfect calm time to de-stress yourself until you do not chew over the day’s activities.

Further, in the following part, catch up what are the other five surprising factors that provoke stress and get to know some perfect stress busters that will help you disentangle from the barbed fences of stress.

What is social phobia? What causes it? No one exactly knows about social phobia. Through a research, the researchers at the “National Institute of Mental Health” came out with an answer that for this social phobia is caused because of the brain chemistry. They conducted a research where they sampled groups of people and tested them under various circumstances. They examined them with and without the condition of reading negative comments about their own selves.  The social phobic people who were scrutinized showed some signs like there was an increase in the blood flow to the parts of the brain that connected to fear and stress.

If you are suffering from social phobia, then don’t take it lightly. It is nonetheless harmful to your personality traits. It causes major hindrance in your way to become successful and emerging out as a winner. So, get my words and diagnose with a mental health professional. Studies have come out with positive results that treatment like talk therapy has helped sufferers to progress from their uneven condition.

Stimulate co-ordination, might be puzzled as to what sort of exercise is this? Don’t get confused, let me proceed further, have little patience, just comprehend thoroughly what I am informing. Try to achieve synchronization with trivial things that are a part and parcel of your life suggests Laura Fay, CEO of HAPPYneuron, Inc. (happy-neuron.com), a brain fitness program site. For an instance, try to brush your teeth, get over your meal or even write with your opposite hand.

Discover new hobbies and channelize your energy into grasping your hand over new things that you haven’t caught up before says Robert Bender, MD, medical director of the Johnny Orr Memory Center and Healthy Aging Institute in Des Moines, Iowa. For instance attempt to play a musical instrument, lend a hand over some artistic work like painting, writing or learn new things.

Learn with fun
Strengthen your memory by switching to some fun tactics like over a sheet of paper, mention ten things in a serial systematic order, after an hour or two, try to recollect them and keep up them in the same order. Thinking that it’s so simple, try to remember them two hours later, you will automatically get your answers, suggests Fay.

1. Set a Bedtime Alert: You might be using the same old tactic of setting an alarm for waking up early in the morning. But, try out new technique of setting a bedtime alarm, sleep expert Michael Breus, author of Beauty Sleep: Look Younger, Lose Weight, and Feel Great through Better Sleep, propounds this. It works as a reminder where you can wind-up with your daily activities. Dr. Breus who is also a spokesperson for the Zeo Personal Sleep Coach, suggests that the first 20 minutes of that hour you should complete your routine chores like washing the utensils, the following 20 minutes take care of your hygiene habits like bathing or brushing, and the concluding 20 minutes give your body relaxation by the way of reading a book, watching T.V., but remember you have to do it until it doesn’t turns exciting and even take deep breaths.
2. Don’t Clear Your Mind: Experts believe that depression and anxiety are the root cause of sleep disorder. The part of problem is that we just cannot keep quiet about our worries and endlessly think about them, which actually makes one anxious and uneasy. So, it’s better to clear up the mind by discussing your problems with others. See, if this is not possible, don’t force yourself to utilize this option, by exhorting this, may be you could even worsen your condition.Paul McKenna, suggests an alternative option, “try slowing down your thoughts by the means of uttering anything or everything in a slow, monotonous, drowsy tone.” This will obviously not charge you a penny neither exhaust energy out of you. The best way is engage yourself in a conversation with yourself, start talking about tomorrow’s plans i.e. what grocery you will buy tomorrow, what you will speak in your presentations. If you try out positive things in a normal manner, you will find that worrying is so difficult and so is staying awake.
3. Count Numbers—Not Sheep: Dr. Breus recommends another way to solace yourself from distressing thoughts, he advises to count backward from 300 by 3’s. This will distract your agonizing thoughts when you try focusing on numbers, unless and until you are an intellectual mathematician. You will successfully feel lethargic after such a big mind-boggling puzzle.
4. Get Up a Half-Hour Earlier: Yes, you have read that right and don’t get dubious; I am still giving tips on attaining effective sleep. Dr. McKenna propounds, “Get up half an hour early”, i.e. if you have a habit of waking up at 7 in the morning, instead wake up at 6.30, no matter at what time you went to sleep the last night. I know its difficult and may be even you will catch bed after getting up, but don’t do that, at least give it a hit, this might turn the most effective way of gaining sleep. As a result, your body will fall snoozing to compensate the lost sleep of the morning and you will fall asleep early.
5. Consider Seeing a Professional: Joseph Ojile, MD, founder of the Clayton Sleep Institute in St. Louis and a spokesman for the National Sleep Foundation suggests consulting a sleep psychologist. Found at the sleep centers, they specialize in these matters. They gather information about your emotions and behaviors relating to sleep and are well acquainted with there remedies. They can resolve your sleep disorders in just five to six visits.
6. Don’t Worry If You Can’t Sleep Right Away: After you get to your bed, do you pass on to another world, if this tendency takes place regularly with you, then this connotes that you are sleep-deprived. Dr. Breus says, normally it should take 15 to 25 minutes after you lie to sleep until you reach a dead world.
7. Go to Bed When You’re Tired: If you are not getting sleep and it is almost midnight and you don’t have much time to rest in bed, don’t think about that. Don’t pressurize your body, to be fast asleep, this will not help you in anyway, this will only lead you to twist and turn your body. Dr. Ojile suggests, instead you get engaged in some relaxation activities and after you get tired, then only pass onto your bed. This will make you fast asleep and might be another day you will fall to your bed because you were exhausted the last day.

Have a sunshine walk:
Got confused? What is a sunshine walk? I mean to say that meander an hour in the sunshine so that your body adapts the changing atmosphere. This walk will help in automatically altering your body to the natural atmosphere. So move in the park with your friends and get chatty or just have fun playing around. Also, I have given you a good excuse to enjoy a bike ride, so what are you waiting for?

Take it easy:
Don’t fuss much. Remember that it is the beginning of a new change in the environment and your body needs some time to change itself. This can’t happen at your fingertip; the body will change itself gradually with the passage of time. So I recommend easing yourself at the beginning period.

Wake up!
I mean try not to take a nap in the afternoon. Try to resist it with a hot cup of coffee or tea. And in the evening, catch sleep half an hour earlier to your regular time.